It’s not quite fall break, but if this school year already has you feeling over committed and frazzled – be not ashamed, and keep reading!
Back to school is a stressful time for everyone involved, and returning to a routine takes some time and refining. If you don’t have one that works, or yours needs help, then check out these tips from around the web.
Breathe in, Breathe out, Move on
We talked earlier this week about what to do when kids get anxious, and how to mentor them through that hard experience, but there’s always more to learn!
What about if you have a discouraged kid who is doubting her abilities, or struggling with not feeling good enough? Learning to practice mindfulness in this situation helps her refocus, move on and not dwell on negative thoughts.
If you’re like most families, there are too many places to go, things to do, and just not enough hours in the day. Same story, different day.
(Big statement about to happen)
As soon as a kid can read and tell time, they’re old enough to realize the importance of time management, and begin practicing it.
Necessary=yes. Most efficient use of your time=maybe not.
This doesn’t mean you put them on your day planner color coding system, but it does mean that they should see how much time they have for other things once their responsibilities are completed.
Helping kids balance school and fun might mean putting the ball in their court. Maybe before signing up for that new activity, they figure out how many hours they are in school (and other non-negotiables) so they can see how much is left for other stuff.
Rethink Decision Making
You might look down on “good enough,” and we get it: always settling for less is not encouraged.
There are life decisions that require research and brain power, like what to do after high school, or what to study in college. However, there are plenty of decisions out there that can simply be adequate. (Insert “don’t sweat the small stuff” platitude)
Perfectionism is unrealistic and restrictive and encourages kids to feel shame when they mess up or make the “wrong” decision. There are a ton of choices she makes during the day that don’t have to be perfect – don’t teach her to agonize.
You can start this process by giving her choices now, and not being upset or discouraged if she doesn’t pick your preference. The empowerment she’ll feel by having a choice in her life will build confidence to tackle life’s biggest decisions!